Wednesday, September 3, 2014

No crib

Lilly wants to know when we will set up Hope's crib.  It's a very simple question from a loving big sister, and it tears my heart into a million pieces.  Her's is the simple belief that this baby growing inside mommy will be coming home to live with us.  I try to tell her, and her bigger sister to, that Hope will not be strong enough to come home, that her birth defect will mean that she will only live a very short while, all of it in a hospital.  That even though we can feel her kicking and squirming and rolling around inside, once she is born, she will go home to heaven and wait for us to get there.
It's harder this time, explaining to them the death of this baby.  The one we lost last year they never saw on the ultrasound screen, never felt move.  One day mommy and daddy said a new baby was coming, and shortly after, the baby had died and gone to Jesus.  They accepted it, with sadness but knowing that the baby was fine and Jesus was baby sitting until we could get there.
They have seen Hope, felt her move, they read her stories and have a list of things they want to do with her.  Her death is something incomprehensible to them, but that's only fair as it is to me too.
Mary knows that Heavenly Father answers prayers, knows with all the faith of an innocent 6 year old heart.  She prays daily for Hope's brain to be healed so she can come home.  While I know that God is a God of miracles, where do i place my faith?  There is no earthly cure or treatment for Anencephaly.  It is always fatal.  Only a divine miracle can save my baby, but if it's not in his plans, then there is no amount of prayers that can change that.  Only prayers for strength to carry on, and try to breath.
There will be no crib set up at our house, but just maybe, we can get the bassinet out.....

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